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----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Bye-bye my life bye-bye! DATE: 2/12/2008 03:07:00 PM ----- BODY: A very sad farewell to a wonderful actor -- Roy Scheider died yesterday. :( "All That Jazz" is an amazing film and I'm sure Adam will have much more to say on the subject than I do, but I just wanted to say my own personal Goodbye. See you in the Cabaret in the Sky, Roy! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: The Dreaming DATE: 1/29/2008 10:00:00 PM ----- BODY: I never cease to be fascinated by the multiplicity of meanings in the works of Kate. See for yourself - don't you agree....click here to download the webpage viewer and video.Labels: music video kate bush the dreaming
----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: New, Cool Features of The Underblog! DATE: 1/28/2008 03:15:00 PM ----- BODY: Our Blog was a bit ... uh, scattered in terms of literary direction, theme, through-line,Dénoument, and all other things that Strunk would have thrown the book at us for doing or not doing. It reminded me of the time in 9th grade when my Commercial Art teacher walked by my desk. I hadn't even STARTED my drawing, and he says: "Hmmm. Nice use of negative space." and walked away. Nothing will make my day like a good-natured Zinger, a Chocolate Zinger, and a Vodka Stinger!) So, for this reason and so, so many others... we've upgraded to what we believe is a more organized, functional blog where you can not just find out the boring, daily rantings of one or the other of us, but you can actually find some useful tidbits brought to you by the tidbit-conscious.[SCENE] You're going to a party. That gay know-it-all who keeps talkin' shit about you will be there. Uh, yeah, you need our help honey. Just scan our blog and voila! When they're all blah blah chick flicks blah & you need a good exit line, You'll now safely know you can say "Uptown Girls? Yeah - I guess it was cool. The guitars dance rocked. You DO know that Brittany Murphy was given the honor of Presenting Liza with the Vanguard award at the 2005 GLAAD awards-wow, what an amazing moment." And then turn....and walk away.We're *very* keen to what is -actually- a really perfect little bite of info, and we've got a view on the world that over time, we've realized is just slightly different than most people's. Not better, not worse, just different. Read some of our thougts and findings, and see if you don't agree. And please post back to us to tell us what you thought! We truly hope this blog adds some fun to your life, and maybe saves you from that fifth circle of hell at the party mentioned above. Its not about luck, doll. Its about knowing just the right thing to say at JUST the wrong time...I mean the wrong time for somebody else. Three Cheers for Britney Spears! -Rob and Adam
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----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: Pretty Pictures DATE: 1/27/2008 11:39:00 AM ----- BODY:Labels: "Fracture" is the source of these screensavers.
----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: DATE: 1/13/2008 07:30:00 PM ----- BODY: Lyrics from "Smile":Labels: Adams Favorite Actors
----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: La Vie en Rose DATE: 1/04/2008 08:11:00 PM ----- BODY: Over the last couple of days, Adam and I watched a particularly enthralling film called "La Vie en Rose" click here to find out more about it on IMDB. The actual title of the movie is "La Mome" -- which makes it a bit difficult to find onn IMDB, seeing as it was re-titled for the US, but only late in the game. The movie is the life story of Edith Piaf -- here's a quote:An un-chronological look at the life of the Little Sparrow, Edith Piaf (1915-1963). Her mother is an alcoholic street singer, her father a circus performer, her paternal grandmother a madam. During childhood she lives with each of them. At 20, she's a street singer discovered by a club owner who's soon murdered, coached by a musician who brings her to concert halls, then quickly famous. Constant companions are alcohol and heartache. The tragedies of her love affair with Marcel Cerdan and the death of her only child belie the words of one of her signature songs, "Non, je ne regrette rien." The back and forth nature of the narrative suggest the patterns of memory and association.There's this one scene -- It was amazing to me -- the directorial brio that was required to pull this scene off is truly breathtaking. Edith, (having been whisked off of the streets of Paris as a street performer by a club owner who recognizes her potential) has just endured three months of torturous but fruitful voice coaching by a teacher who employs some questionable methods (demeaning, yelling, threatening, flirting, slapping, encouragement) to "break" Edith and re-form her into the Edith Piaf most recognized today. Anyway, so its just before her very first performance as "the Brand-New Edith Piaf" and she's locked herself into the broom closet -- terrified for her life, be it "en rose" or not. She's eventually coaxed from the closet, and you see her rise...rise...rise up from the stool in the closet, and step slowly towards the stage. You expect to hear her voice bloom on stage. The audience is anticipatory -- silently on the edge of their seats waiting for "the sparrow" to delight them or disgust them with her voice. You expect to hear her sing and win them over. This would have been the predictable and mundane way to direct the scene. Instead, the choice was made to have the scene go completely silent and instead you SEE her sing, you SEE her emote, you watch the faces of the audience go through these changes -- almost imperceptible bit by bit but undeniable when seen as a whole transformation. Inside this eerie silence with the single, sharp spot on Edith, soft lighting on the audience, you see the audience's faces. There is this sense of tense anticipation in the room -- they're not sure what's about to happen -- they're almost bored and frightened at the same time if that's possible. Then, still in silence, as you see Edith begin her piece, their faces slowly and ever so slightly turn to gentle curiosity, then like a luscious loaf of bread expanding and browning in the oven, their collective proletariat visages bloom into and through a bit of disbelief, into the beginnings of wonder, through a sort of silent encouragement, almost as if they're saying "yes, yes...that's it... a little more now, yes, go on, yes yes..." Suddenly then; a series of ever silent images which show Edith reacting to the audience's faces. She blooms a bit, begins to emote more, become more comfortable, using her beautiful hands, her arms, her body -- then a closeup on her eyes and lips -- and a cut back to the audience becoming visibly roped in to this utter phenomenon occurring before their eyes... some of them begin to weep, some look as though they've just seen God, some as though they've literally just arrived back from having been (beautifully if not a bit rudely) transported to the exact time and place of their most beloved memory and cannot believe that the other people sitting next to them have the gall to have interrupted their rapture. Then the sound returns, softly at first, and it is only -- simply -- applause. Wow. I was amazed. Its truly breathtaking. Then there's the final scene, which I will not ruin for you at all, but will tell you to get your kleenex and prepare thyself. :) I hope you take the time to rent this movie and enjoy it as much as we did. Love, Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: Nature's Own Realm DATE: 1/01/2008 03:38:00 PM ----- BODY: Click on Nature's Own Realm for the accompanying slideshow after reading this....or just view to the right. I'm watching a selection of Walt Disney TV shows from the 50s and 60s. The introduction says the following which I find to be very provocotive. *** [Welcome to Disneyland...] Frontierland: Tall tales of true from the past; Tomorrowland: Tales of things to come; Adventureland: The Wonderworld of Natures Own Realm; Fantasyland The Happiest Kingdom of them all. *** These words are such a tremendously inspiring summary of the world. It is a myopic summary - but there in lies its beauty - It seems to objectify the world as though it isn't filled with billions of pairs of eyeballs hard-wired to individual brains. This is the world as it exists via the collective perception of all conciousness - the world as percieved by humanity perhaps. Did that portion of humanity without TVs or Radios subscribe to the studio's summary? No need. Surely an individual's perception is legitimate - if collective consciousness isn't public domain what is? I love "Peter and the Wolf" the cartoon. It is so very beautiful. Variations on a theme - and amazing color schemes. The animators match Serge Prokofiev's musical themes to the characters with audio-visual imaginations that are indeed a fantastic interpretation of Humanity (Peter) as we exist in our tireless witch hunts and wars (Wolf). As a note of interest, "Peter and the Wolf" is the first non-war (WWII) effort production from the studio after V-day. The effort was purely entertainment, but no less war oriented - fair enough. Peter and Wolf is beautiful. given the opportunity given the opportunity why not create a narrative of peace without it being at any other's expense...Fantasy or Tommorrow Land? How can Fantasyland be the happiest land of all when it results in Tomorrowland. Tomorrowland should be the happier land of all and Fantasy land should be the land of happy today. The background color choices are an intrinsic zeitgeist; practically radioactive, flourescent - how appropriate to the atomic age man vs nature, yet true to the Russian Folkart patterns and to the Russian Tomorrowland: Chernobyl (sorry....not my fault if grotesque). I love the colors. God Bless Chernobyl....my entire ancestory comes from a 500 mile radius of Chernobyl - I won't be making any Eastern European pilgrimmages ala "Everything is Illumniated" by Jonathan Safran Foer (mad brilliant author). Cherished is the memory of playing a clarinet duet of "Peter's Theme" with Stacey Weber in 6th Grade at Erwin St. Elementary School in Van Nuys, California 1979. We played it in two parts with harmonies and everything. Rob and I celebrated our 8th Anniversary and New Year's Eve. We watched Broadway's Lost Treasures III. I love musical theatre more than anything in this entire world. Yesterday in the mail, Robs Mom received my holiday card to her in Texas...the Red Hat with Purple Ribbon charm bracelet. She loves that poem "When I Grow Old, I Shall Wear A Purple Hat...." you must have heard of all that I'm spending my childrens inheritance jazz....I received a thank you Playbill and Refrigerator magnet from the man who I sent Orchestra tickets to XANADU on Broadway since Rob and I had to forgo our trip to our NYC timeshare this year. sniff. We're alive and thriving. Pray tell that you saw 'Into the Wild'. What a tremendous insightful cinematic experience. It was extra inspirational to me because I saw it just after visiting Los Altos for a family reunion. The main character was born two weeks apart from me the same year so there was a kinship there. Definetly check it out. Also...ever seen "Winter Kills" with Jeff Bridges from the 1970's? Brilliant DVD re-release....put on your Netflix list or what have ya. Yes still ever the cinema and broad way musical freak. John Houston is in it too all old and crusty with red banana hanger underwear and untied silk robe, cigar - ewwwww. Houston's character is quoted as having said: "Moses lied when he came down from Mt. Sinai. There was only one commandment; G-d said: 'Do what you like...but don't get caught!'." How crotchety-John Houston can you get.? And for that matter what's up with him directing the film version of "Annie"? Can you imagine him bolstering that poor little girl before her big scenes. Yuk. Another film NOT to be missed: "The Devil and Daniel Webster" (1941)(Criterion 2002). The screenplay is by Dan Totheroh, Who grew up in early 1900's Marin County. The Devil is played by Walter Houston, John's dad (Rob prefers to say Angelica's Grandfather). In any event the Winter Kills Houston is clearly an homage (if not mere mimicry) of the Daniel-Webster Houston. You'll see (that's in the imperative)! I've invented a word: thralive. (pronounced Thruh-lih'-vuh) Verb to denote a state of material satisfaction while spiritually exceeding mere satisfaction. To be basically healthy and surviving while spiritually thriving. Ex. I'm thralive, you're thralive, he she it thralives ....we're thraliving. Thraliving and Traveling are so close....but sisters, not twins. Oh and Rob and I have contrived a word of Yiddsh etymology: Kvelmensgedank. It is a noun Appriciative Joy at Witnessing the Good Fortune of Others. It is the opposite of 'Schadenfreude' (Germ. Damage - Joy ): Malicious Joy at the misfortune of others. Example sentence: Money flows easily effortlessly and frequently into our lives, righting our keel so that our income exceeds our expenses greatly, magnificently, and wonderously to the kvelmensgendansk of all. *** Foucault Pendulum Purple Sage Rider Pisces. Crash, Burn, and Phoenix Arise! Dowels of wood in the atrium pit of Griffith Observatory Fall. Time or Space or Frames of Reference; Pharaoh or Moses both make deference. (Adam Odnert, 2007) *** We Wish You A Happy 2008 Rob and I - the sunrise here was magnificent at 7:30am. Whatever and Wherever you are make your tommorow this instant in fantasyland. 2008 will be terrific. After all we are conscious and thriving in the world along with our loving communal earthlings. What could be better? Exit to Striesand's 1974 recording of Bowie's "Life on Mars". ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: HABBApy New YeABBAr DATE: 1/01/2008 01:21:00 PM ----- BODY: HABBApy New YeABBAr! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: Bless All Earthlings in 2008 DATE: 12/31/2007 11:59:00 PM ----- BODY: Thanks to Diana for sending this Blair-ing Salute to the changing of years 2007 to 2008. Whew...the best is yet to come! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Rosemary, Lance Daryl and Jennifer DATE: 12/30/2007 06:58:00 PM ----- BODY: Adam got to spend some wonderful time with his big Bro (Daryl) and dear Jennifer as well as their good friends Rosemary and Lance. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Adam TITLE: Kiva! How Delightful DATE: 12/29/2007 01:07:00 PM ----- BODY: Wow - so glad to know about www.kiva.org . It's hard to imagine so little money going so far for another and their families. What an amazing convention. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Still not much going on... DATE: 12/16/2007 05:09:00 PM ----- BODY: I am having the HARDEST time getting any darned thing done... I'm so distracted by everything -- screwing around with computers and our net and stuff... moving TV Shows off of our DVR to DVD, etc. I'm going to make mysef do some laundry... that'll help. :) Some post, huh? Oh, Mycroft says 'allo from down unda! -Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: A Saturday Less Expected DATE: 12/15/2007 11:04:00 PM ----- BODY: Well, today I didn't get much done. I wanted to get a lot done. I wanted to get a whole lot done. But something in me is having a hard time getting things done lately. Who knows what the deal is. I love life -- I'm in love with a wonderful man -- we're having some challenges in life, but they're challenges that are more like me and him against the world as Butch and Sundance rather than issues between him and I... but after a few years of being Butch and Sundance, you start to get weary of all the Sheriffs who are after you. I'm seeing a day in the near future where we're really out of debt -- where we've restored Adam's credit history, where we've restored my credit, where we've got our house to the point where we can sell it for a huge profit and roll that money over into a place we'll like better or a place that's IN a place that we'll like better. I found out some great news tonight -- Our friend Scott is going to be moving in sometime in January -- that's just the best. Adam and Scott will have a great time together during the day and if we can successfully engender trust between the three of us (which I believe we can) I think we'll have a successful household. When Scott and Adam are both working and contributing to the household fully (and when I start contributing to the household in more ways than just financially) I think we will have reached equilibrium -- and I'm willing to just see how it goes and let things happen as they will. I trust myself, I trust Adam, and I trust Scott... and I know that whatever happens for us all, the Universe is taking good care of us, and giving us exactly what we need. Anyway, Love to you all -- whoever is reading this if anybody. :-) -Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Finding my way... DATE: 12/14/2007 05:50:00 PM ----- BODY: Lately, Adam and I have been very inspired by two things its like a sort of "Harmonic Convergence" of ideas that have come into our lives that are causing a great deal of change all at once, and its all GOOD change, but its change nonetheless. I thought I'd take a moment to write about some of these things and how / why they are impacting our lives. I'll write about them in order of their appearance in our lives, rather than their significance because that significance can change from moment to moment and situation to situation. 1. The Law of Attraction / The Secret / New Thought -- whatever you want to call it We were first introduced to this concept through the movie "What the bleep" -- and though I realize that many people think its a bunch of hooey (that's a technical term, by the way) I personally believe that at some deep level, the "law" of attraction works -- though I don't fully understand how or why -- and I certainly can't answer tough questions about it. I am very much drawn to one of the speakers in the movie, her name is Lisa Nichols -- huh, I wonder if she's related to Nichelle Nichols at all... not that two beautiful black women can't have the same last name and not be related -- just curious. I've met Nichelle, and have a photo of myself with her when she performed with us in the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus. Unfortunately, I had WAAAAAY too much makeup left on from the show, so its not a photo I like to show to folks. Anyway, as I said, I don't know why the Law of Attraction works well for me and yet there are still starving people in the world, or why there's so much pain and suffering when the universe works in such abundant ways -- those are great questions, and I certainly don't want to blame those starving people for attracting their situation -- and that seems to be where everybody gets stuck... I for one do not get stuck there, I say to myself that though these horrible things are true today, it doesn't mean that they aren't on a path towards healing, and it doesn't mean that humanity and its development is not an incredible thing, and it doesn't mean that the Law of Attraction doesn't work. I know that it works for me -- its worked for me in incredibly huge ways, and you know, so what if some people think its a gimmick or think it doesn't work? One of our friends has been so stuck in negativity around a particular issue -- I sat with her and worked out some things and I hope it helped... her issue is that she's reaching an age where she feels that she should be married and / or have a kid by now, and she's not even dating anyone much less any closer to getting married. She's miserable about it -- and I mean miserable. She cries about it a lot and -- well, you know, its tough to watch her going through it. So, at the risk of sounding glib to her, I asked that she sit and watch the secret with me... and we talked for a long time -- and at the end of the time I had come to the place where I said "Look, so let's say you decide right now that there's the PERFECT man for you out there. And he's on his way right now and he'll be here in about three weeks. Let's say you go home, and you clean the house in order to get ready for him... you get your hair done, your nails done, if you've got the money buy a new outfit, try some new makeup, etc. Just GET READY for him to show up. Spend a little time every day thinking about what you're going to do when he gets here. Spend a little time each day feeling how its going to feel when he finally arrives. Really let yourself get excited about it and a bit giddy if you like. And -- in the meantime, let's take some of the responsibility off of his shoulders, it seems like he's got a lot to do when he gets there -- like you know, having a baby with you, being able to support your family at least partially, being somebody who understands you... so maybe if you did some of that stuff yourself he might feel more like showing up? Maybe have a baby on your own... maybe see how you can improve your financial situation (though I'm one to talk....) to prepare for a child... maybe write a manual on "getting to know _________ _________" so that he can read it when he arrives? And Ok, so let's say you do a little bit of this every day -- and you do all the things you want to do with your life, but have been waiting until that special someone arrives -- and you spend some time each day feeling how great its going to feel when he gets there. And so let's also say you get to the end of your life and he never showed up -- he got lost along the way, or hit by a bus, or met someone else... or any number of things happened, but he didn't show up. Are you better off for having lived your life to its fullest, feeling excited that he was going to be there any day, or would you have been better off if you were sad and disappointed all the time and drove all of your friends away because you were a bummer to be around? So, in the end, who CARES if the secret works or not for getting you that man, or getting you rich or getting you that thing or parking place or blah blah blah.... CHOOSE to feel good, choose to follow your bliss anyway. And I bet you -- if you really do get ready for him to show up, and you really feel those feelings and really see him clearly (Good on you! Now paint it!) I just bet you he'll show up. All that having been said, "The Secret" is a really positive, great feeling movie to see -- and it can be hilarious in places where its probably not supposed to be. And it really seems to me like the people who made the movie would think that was funny too... There's this one place where one of the teachers in the movie (she's a Feng Sheui [sp?] master) has this really great face that's very expressive and she has a wonderful accent -- and you know how in America we say "Good for you!" well, in her native language, I guess they say "Good ON you" -- and she meets this guy who has painted all this negative stuff, and he's saying how he doesn't want the negative stuff and he wants the positive stuff, and she says very emphatically "GOOD on YOU! Now PAINT IT!" and that's become a really funny catch-phrase around our house meaning "All that you just said sounds really cool. Now, quit yer yappin and DO IT!" 2. Elle Woods / Legally Blonde The Musical Ok, ok... i get it "Fight the Stereotype" -- But there's actually a great connection here. Legally Blonde (the movie) is really about taking your inner-self and manifesting it in reality, despite what others may think of you... and not giving in to stereotypes ... and learning to laugh at them at the same time. Its about taking responsibility for your own actions in life, what you've done to get yourself where you are, that you and you alone can get you out of the situation you're in if you don't like it, and if you don't like it... "Good on YOU, now PAINT IT!" For those of you who don't know the story, a brief synopsys:
So... well, to keep this as short as possible, here's some lyrics from one of the songs near the end of the musical right after Warner gets dumped by his "Evil Preppy with a mousy brown Bob" and finally proposes to Elle:Elle Woods (Reese Witherspoon) has it all. She's the president of her sorority, a Hawaiian Tropic girl, Miss June in her campus calendar, and, above all, a natural blonde. She dates the cutest fraternity boy on campus and wants nothing more than to be Mrs. Warner Huntington III. But, there?s just one thing stopping Warner (Matthew Davis) from popping the question: Elle is too blonde. Growing up across the street from Aaron Spelling might mean something in LA, but nothing to Warner?s East-Coast blue blood family. So, when Warner packs up for Harvard Law and reunites with an old sweetheart from prep school, Elle rallies all her resources and gets into Harvard, determined to win him back. But law school is a far cry from the comforts of her poolside and the mall. Elle must wage the battle of her life, for her guy, for herself and for all the blondes who suffer endless indignities everyday. Based upon the book by Amanda Brown
"though I dreamed of this day long ago, now my answer is 'Thank you but no'. Look, I've barely begun, I'm hardly through... I was living in ignorant bliss...'till I learned I could be more than this...and you know, in a way I owe it all to you. I thought losing your love was a blow I could never withstand -- but look how far I have come without anyone holding my hand! I *had* to find my way -- the day you broke my heart -- you handed me the chance -- to make a brand new start -- you helped me find my way -- there's still so much to learn -- so many dreams to earn, but even if I crash and burn ten times a day, I think I'm here to stay, I'm gonna find my way."So, I say that now. I say it to the Universe, to Microsoft, to Kerie, to everyone. To thine own self be true -- and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. I thank all of the things that happened in my life -- I thank them one and all, the ones who thought I'd fall who taught me how to fail, who helped me to prevail. I'm standing here today. You helped me find my way. OMIGOD YOU GUYS, ELLE WOODS KNOWS THE SECRET! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Adam's helping his Mom DATE: 12/13/2007 11:18:00 AM ----- BODY: So, Adam's gone off for a bit to help his mom finish up her year -- I'm staying behind until Sunday, the 23rd of December, then flying down to be with him in SFO for Christmas through New Year's... I'm really looking forward to that, as we haven't been to Congregation Sha'ar Zha'av in so long and it will be good to see old friends. Hope everyone had a nice Chanukkah if you celebrated, and if not, I hope your december is filled with joy. We're trying to sell our one week in NYC at Christmastime (for this year only!) so if you're interested, take a look at this posting: http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/vac/508184517.html
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----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Remember This? DATE: 12/13/2007 11:03:00 AM ----- BODY: Wow -- who knew that our love of Fractured Fairy Tales would cause our lives to be like this??? hahahaha ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Adam at BurgerMeister! DATE: 12/13/2007 10:58:00 AM ----- BODY: here's a cute little picture of Adam at the local BurgerMeister -- its a fun car-hop kinda place with really good food... and they have "Tom and Jerry" flavored shakes, which is kind of an egg-noggy sort of thing and really good! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Welcome Home Adam! DATE: 12/10/2007 04:25:00 PM ----- BODY: Adam has been away, and we're very glad to say he's returned in one piece -- and tonight we will celebrate the 6th night of Chanukah by re-consecrating our temple -- having some fun and some latkes! hope everyone is well. Love, Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Danena and Simon! DATE: 11/25/2007 12:44:00 AM ----- BODY: Danena and Dear Sweet Hot Simon ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: One Sleepy Dawg DATE: 11/23/2007 12:04:00 PM ----- BODY: Novio is sreeeeepy! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Danena and Adam Turka Durr Night! DATE: 11/22/2007 11:58:00 PM ----- BODY: ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: A cute dude I saw at the store last night! DATE: 11/22/2007 01:57:00 PM ----- BODY: ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: DATE: 11/22/2007 01:31:00 PM ----- BODY: ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: So -- Ya put a piece-a meat in the oven, what's to keep it from cooking? DATE: 11/21/2007 09:22:00 PM ----- BODY: From "The Women" 1939:Lulu: Will I find anything in that ice box of yours? Pat: Yeah, cobwebs and a bottle of gin.Ok, so I know that MANY of you will find this very very hard to believe -- but the "Rob and Adam -- Two Dudes in Love" blog is BACK ONLINE!! Its literally been 3 and a half years since I've posted -- there's SOOO much to catch up on, but if I told you all of it all at once: A) It would be entirely too long 2) You'd be really bored by about the third paragraph III) I'm about to watch "Legally Blonde: The Musical" and that's just more important, because I *am* the male Elle Woods. Being blond and being hot -- that got me exactly squat -- that's why I know -- Im POSITIVE!! :) Really quickly -- was recruited by Microsoft, they moved Adam and I up here ("here" being Seattle) last year, I worked there for about 10 months, which wasn't for me... just started working for a great company which shall remain nameless, on a project that shall remain nameless -- but I love what I'm doing. Adam -- well, I'll let Adam tell you about Adam when he decides to post. He'll do that soon, I'm sure. :) Happy happy happy Thanksgiving to everyone! By the way -- if you're having an issue with your turkey, you can ALWAYS go to The Famous Butterball Site an learn how to deal with your turkey issues -- They've helped me out of more jams than I can even tell you. Much Love, and more soon.... I promise :) Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: I'm so tired of Bad News DATE: 6/07/2004 02:29:00 PM ----- BODY: So, my good friend Judie and I were chatting about events over the weekend this morning, and we both were kinda down about all the bad stuff that's happening in the world. In Judie's commuinity, a 3-year-old girl was abducted in the middle of the night and a search party found her body this morning. Here's a link to that story if you want to know more, though its so sad, I can't imagine you'd really want to know more. Here in San Francisco, a young girl was sexually abused by a stranger IN HER BEDROOM, which is INSIDE an apartment building with 24-hour security... what the?!?!? I couldn't find a link to this story, but I didn't really want to post one anyway. So, I actually SEARCHED for a "Good News" site that had a feed I could use for our blog, and I inserted it in the right-hand bar... so if you're ever feeling a bit overwhelmed, you can come here and click on the links under "Great News Network" and find an uplifting or at least positive story to help your day along. Hope you're all well, we'll talk to you soon. -Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: A long overdue update! DATE: 5/29/2004 12:46:00 PM ----- BODY: Hey, Everyone. VERY sorry for the delay in getting this new post up, as most of you know we've been traveling a lot and generally getting our hands into a lot of different things going on. I'll try to give as good an update as possible. Since Rob's last post (Orlando) Adam and Rob have been to Vancouver, then to Amsterdam, Rob went on to Munich while Adam was in Amsterdam, we met up again in Paris (We'll ALWAYS have Paris) then Adam came home to the states to continue working and Rob went on to London and back to Amsterdam then returned to the States. Rob was home for all of 48 hours and went off to New York, then returned home for a week of much needed rest, then went off to Las Vegas, back home, then Adam went off to San Diego for a business trip with Sheila and Rob joined them for the weekend. We got to spend a lovely afternoon with Sanford and Marge Schane there. They are good friends of the Odnerts from waaaay back. Rob went off to Salt Lake City then Miami and back home again (and made Premier Executive status on United on that flight which means a total of 50,000 actual flight iles this year on United). Mom is coming to visit for Memorial Day weekend tonight and we're planning on having a nice, relaxing time. I've got some great pictures that I've posted... take a look at them and let us know what you think! First, Vancouver! Click on the image below to get to the Images page! Now, on to Amsterdam! First, Amsterdam in general. There's lots of images, so check 'em all out! Now, the beautiful Keukenof, a gorgeous flower garden outside Amsterdam: More from the Keukenof! We had a great time, there's a few more pics, but I haven't uploaded them yet... so, I'll get them up when I can. We hope you all have a great Memorial Day weekend. Thanks for your support! Love, Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Mickey Says Hi, too! DATE: 3/28/2004 12:26:00 PM ----- BODY: Hey, Everyone! Rob had a fairly long trip to Orlando, Florida this past week. He just flew back on Friday (and BOY are his arms tired!) [that joke will get funnier with time, trust me.]. Rob took some pictures with his new Treo 600 phone and bought a disposable digital camera at Epcot where he took some other photos. If you want to check out the pix, Click Here Genesys was attending the Microsoft Convergence conference, which turned out to be a huge success for us, we really enjoyed our time there and met a lot of great people. We're getting ready to go on a slew of trips over the next month. This weekend we're lounging at home, I'm in meetings all this week until Thursday, then I travel to Vancouver and on to Vancouver Island for the weekend with Adam (for a short vacation). Then when we get back from that, I'm here in San Francisco for a few days, then off to Amsterdam, Munich, Paris, Milan and London (a two-week work tour of Europe), then back home, then off to New York City for a few days. I hope to get a nice digital camera before these trips, we'll have to see what we can do from Amazon, eh? :) Hope everyone is well. Much Love, Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Trippin' in Seattle DATE: 3/04/2004 08:11:00 PM ----- BODY: Hey, everyone. Just a quick update... I'm sitting in the Red Carpet Club in Seattle -- its raining outside (go figure) and I'm having a nice big glass of merlot to chase away the nervousness of flying. For someone who flies as much as I do, I certainly have a lot of fear around it. I'm working on getting a bit better, and from time to time, I have flights that are perfectly comfortable... but if its very bumpy, its just pretty much unbearable. So... I usually need a drink or two just to get on a plane, which isn't good for my waistline or for my psyche... I don't like NEEDING anything in order to get through life's little trials. I don't really NEED it, but the next two hours would just be so darn scary without the wine... I wonder why I should sit through it. Anyway, the trip to Seattle was fairly uneventful, though I didn't drink on the way up (it was a 7am flight, I have my limits) and I was nervous... the meetings went well though I was fairly tired yesterday. I went back to the hotel, begged off of my co-workers for dinner, took a nice long nap, got up, went and had dinner on my own (no room service) and did some work, then went back to bed. Oh, boy, what a wonderful day. :) I wish I got to spend more time in Seattle, I love this town... but its no fun without my darling husband here with me... that's really the only reason to stay late anywhere if he's along. Hopefully we'll get to "do" The Netherlands together in the next few weeks. Well, that's about it really... I just wanted to say hey to those of you who are listening. Oh, by the way, I guess we've kinda slacked off on reporting on the Treo 600's... In general, these are GREAT phones... If we end up trading them in for something else, I'll REALLY miss a lot of the features. I've really gotten used to having it around. I certainly wish AT&T had better coverage, though. At least with standard Digital phones you can get signal inside of buildings (most of the time) and underground, etc. I wonder if GSM phones will get better signal strength once there are more towers and all... curious. If I go deep inside any building, I get little or no signal on the phone... outside its great, very very clear sound and great features, but its hard to have calls inside anywhere. Oh, well... once again, Technology needs to catch up with me. Hope you're all having a great day. Love, Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Treo a-Go-Go, Nokia Heave-ho! DATE: 2/22/2004 10:37:00 AM ----- BODY: Hi, everybody! If you're looking for the story about our big ol' gay weddin', look no further than clickin on this here link So, Adam and I bought ourselves a wedding present... we were SO sick and tired of the Nokia phones we got, the picture phones with the circular keyboards -- we liked them a lot when we first got them, and they would probably serve a teenager pretty well, but for someone who really wants to be able to use SMS Text Messaging (where you send someone a quick text message right to their phone) that phone just wasn't doing the trick. The phone was also really SLOW in terms of its response to your key selections -- you'd choose to connect to the internet for something and it would take forever. So, we started shopping around, asking people what they thought of their phones and all, reading reviews, etc and finally decided on the Handspring Treo 600. The price for these phones was a little...ahem...out of our range, so we called AT&T Wireless and explained that we'd been loyal customers of theirs for a long time, that we were very unsatisfied with our Nokia phones, and wondered if they could do anything to help us out on the price of the Treo phones. Lo and Behold, they did. They gave us a combination of discounts (loyalty, activation, equipment upgrade, etc) that brought the phones down to a much more reasonable level for us, and we went and bought two of them Friday night. We have 30 days total to see if we like the phones and can take them back at any time up to 30 days if we're unsatisfied for any reason. So, we decided we'd spend some time detailing our experiences with the phones here on the blog so we can go back and look and see what we liked and didn't like about them, and maybe we'd help somebody out there who was looking at these phones decide if its the right phone for them. I'm not really sure which way to go about this, whether its to create a different blog just for our Treo experiences, or to include it here as one entry that we keep updating, or whether to just create new entries for each 'day-in-the-life-of-a-Treo-user' kind of thing. For now, I think we'll create separate entries here, if anybody has strong feelings about that, let us know (meaning if you're getting too many emails about Treo phones and you just don't care, rather than unsubscribing, let us know in the "comments" for this post. just click on the word "comments" below to add your comments. we'll be posting "Treo Day One" and "Treo Day Two" today, obviously, more to follow. Love, Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Rob and Adam Got Married! DATE: 2/14/2004 02:11:00 PM ----- BODY: Hello, Everyone. And now for the most joyous entry to Rob and Adam's blog EVER! Rob and Adam got married last night at City Hall in San Francisco. Really really married. It was a wonderful sight to behold. The smiles and whoops of joy on everybody's faces around was an amazing thing. Its amazing to look at the Marriage Certificate. Just seeing our names, printed together on this official document and signed by a Justice of the Peace and the County Recorder and everyone can see and we're really really married and he's really my husband and I can't believe it. Please add any comments you'd like by scrolling to the end of this post and clicking on the word "comments" by the date of the post. You'll get a new window with the ability to read other's comments and post your own. We look forward to hearing from you! So, it was really a great experience, because there were all these county clerks who you just know are normally all about leaving their posts at exactly the time their supposed to and taking breaks exactly when they're supposed to -- and they're all staying late and happy about it... staying late to make sure that all of us who want to can get our marriage certificates before some right wing group gets an injuntion in place. Personally, we've never really had any major political views in place relative to Same Sex Marriage, but we've always felt that we should at least have the same rights as everyone else around. We just found out about the San Francisco "Municipal Anarchy" yesterday and decided "what the hell" we'd just go and do it. It was a wonderful, bonding experience, and we really feel different today. Adam's Mom Sheila came down and witnessed for us (signed the certificate and everything) as did our wonderful friend Mycroft. We stood in line for about 5 hours, and we were getting more and more ecstatic as we went along -- this was really going to happen. We were both amazed at how important it felt. The officials were making sure that every "i" was dotted and every "t" was crossed, checking and double-checking the documents and the process that we were going through. City Hall was set up so that you went first to the line to get licenses, then to the line to have the Justice of the Peace marry you (!!!!) then to the County Recorder's office to get your marriage recorded in the County Recorder's Register, and you got your copy of your marriage certificate. Afterwards, we went to Capri restaraunt and had a nice dinner -- and every once in a while you'd see somebody on the street just ball up their fists, and jump in the air and scream at the top of their lungs "WE GOT MARRIED TODAY!! REALLY MARRIED!!" And every time I think about that -- the thousands of couples in the city who will feel that joy of being bonded by a legal document that's recognized by everybody -- we're in love with each other, we're going to be together for as long as we can, and we're married. Really Married. Love, Rob and Adam Mr. and Mr. Norton-Odnert. Les Messieurs Robert and Adam Norton-Odnert. P.S. Many of our straight friends innocently ask why this is such a big deal -- what rights to married couples really have that "Civil Unions" or "Domestic Partnerships" don't convey -- are there really that many rights that make this all that worthwhile a pursuit? We did some research, and even we were amazed. On the order of 1,400 legal rights are conferred upon married couples in the U.S. Typically these are composed of about 400 state benefits and over 1,000 federal benefits. Among them are the rights to:
joint parenting; joint adoption; joint foster care, custody, and visitation (including non-biological parents); status as next-of-kin for hospital visits and medical decisions where one partner is too ill to be competent; joint insurance policies for home, auto and health; dissolution and divorce protections such as community property and child support; immigration and residency for partners from other countries; inheritance automatically in the absence of a will (this is a huge issue); joint leases with automatic renewal rights in the event one partner dies or leaves the house or apartment (another huge issue); inheritance of jointly-owned real and personal property through the right of survivorship (which avoids the time and expense and taxes in probate); benefits such as annuities, pension plans, Social Security, and Medicare; spousal exemptions to property tax increases upon the death of one partner who is a co-owner of the home (again, huge issue, can't be attained through legal documents); veterans' discounts on medical care, education, and home loans; joint filing of tax returns; joint filing of customs claims when traveling; wrongful death benefits for a surviving partner and children; bereavement or sick leave to care for a partner or child; decision-making power with respect to whether a deceased partner will be cremated or not and where to bury him or her; crime victims' recovery benefits; loss of consortium tort benefits; domestic violence protection orders; judicial protections and evidentiary immunity; and more....Most of these legal and economic benefits cannot be privately arranged or contracted for. For example, absent a legal (or civil) marriage, there is no guaranteed joint responsibility to the partner and to third parties (including children) in such areas as child support, debts to creditors, taxes, etc. In addition, private employers and institutions often give other economic privileges and other benefits (special rates or memberships) only to married couples. And, of course, when people cannot marry, they are denied all the emotional and social benefits and responsibilities of marriage as well. This last sentence is key. Adam and I both feel more like responsible, upstanding members of society now, able to "come out into the sun" more than we did on Thursday. We feel more of a responsibility to the rest of society to uphold our end of the bargain. We didn't even "get" that this would be part of the deal. So, in many ways, saying that we're not worthy of marriage because in the past we might have not lived up to your expectations of what married couples should look like is really putting the cart before the horse. My thought is "Allow us to marry, and many of us may feel less ashamed of who we are and in feeling less ashamed, we might act less like people who should be ashamed." Does that make any sense? When you deny someone a feeling of basic decency on a daily basis -- its very damaging to any sense of belonging to society and therefore lessens the feeling of having any reason to live up to society's expectations So, yes, its important. J-lo or Britney Spears or Dennis Rodman can walk into any chapel in Las Vegas or any Justice of the Peace in any town and get married in a matter of minutes, and these rights are conveyed upon them by that U.S. State and the Federal Government -- and they can dissolve them hours later with little thought. Adam and I love each other very much and we work very hard to make our lives together fulfilling and loving, and we try to be good, hardworking American citizens, but no matter how hard we work, up until this past Thursday, (and still probably not at a Federal level any time soon) we couldn't get all of these rights if we wanted them, even if we paid a lawyer to draw up the necessary documents -- its just not possible in some cases. Thanks for all the well-wishes and the support from our friends -- even from those who aren't too sure about this whole thing, your faith in us -- our ability as a couple to uphold the marriage vows in ways you'd be proud to endorse -- gives us strength. Here's some links to Same-Sex Marriage stuff going on in the news: Washington Post Ireland Online What's going on in Massachusetts Religious Tolerance ABC News.com Poll Same Sex Marriage - CA London Free Press Search Google News for "Same Sex Marriage" Senator to submit legislation to allow Same-Sex Marriage Demand so great, some couples turned away Some Opposing Views Campaign for California Families Alliance Defense Fund ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Goin' to the chapel... DATE: 2/13/2004 06:57:00 PM ----- BODY: Hey everybody! Adam and i are in line to get our marriage license and get married tonight! We'll post more later... ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: An Update from the Married Couple :) DATE: 2/12/2004 07:25:00 PM ----- BODY: Hey, Everyone... So, over the weekend Adam and I have found out that many many people were not able to get married though they wanted to. That seems very sad to us, as first thing tomorrow morning some injunctions will probably go into place that would preclude others from attaining that status. We're very sorry to hear that, of course. We spent most of yesterday and today working on Sheila's computer, making sure that it would work both at home and at work -- its been a fairly drizzly day and we started the day off with some wonderful pancakes at the Millbrae Pancake House that was a fantastic new find for us. We highly reccomend this restaraunt if you're in the area. Also, last night we went to Viognier, a fantastic restaraunt in San Mateo that has an unbelievable wine list only a portion of which is listed on their website. We had an amazing meal, definitely on my top 10 list, which is hard to do. The port at the end of the meal was also fantastic. I've gotten into Port a bit more lately, and am really enjoying that. Tonight, we're just having a quiet night at Sheila's house for the moment, Adam just got off the phone with August, our good friend (of August and Lani) who visited us in January just after new year's. Hi to August and Lani!! Thanks for the wonderful card you sent to us, it was much appreciated. I'm posting this "To The Past" as we still want our Marriage License to be the very first thing you see when you enter our Blog, but I'll rearrange stuff later to be in more chronological order. Hope you're all well. Much Love, Rob and Adam (And Sheila, and Shari and Elvis/Felix) ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Kerie says hi! DATE: 2/11/2004 11:18:00 AM ----- BODY: Good morning, everyone. Well, I hope its a good morning for you, for me its been a rek of a day, and its only 7:33 am. Yar. More on my rude morning later, but for now, I have a bit of a story to tell that was very intense to live through -- in the end it all turned out to be comforting and spiritually reassuring to me -- but was very very creepy and shocking at the time. Im a little reticent to start putting this all down in bits, but I guess its just time I did. I know that Im going to cry a bit while writing it all, and you may cry a bit when you read it -- hopefully not because its bad or just too darn long. So, where do you start? There has been one major event in my life that has singularly changed me more than anything before or since -- when my friend and soulmate Kerie was killed very suddenly in a horseback riding accident six years ago yesterday, February 10, 1998. Wow, that was a really long time ago. Yesterday, I heard her favorite song on the radio. The Promise by When In Rome. That in itself is not really a big deal ... not really. Kerie loved music. She and I grew up in the seventies and were young teenagers together in the early 80s. Those were great days in music. We fell in love with each other while listening to some fantastic songs that held -- we thought at the time -- the very secrets of the universe in their lyrics. Kerie and I had a real love that we later understood was not going to turn out to be what either of us expected, but something more and deeper. If you?re lucky you maybe -- MAYBE get one friend like that in your life. Somebody who just gets you at a cellular level, hook, line and sinker. Kerie and I were misfits in our high school together -- we punked our hair, smoked cigarettes, tried some substances here and there but never really got into all that -- we were each others drugs really. We laughed a lot. That woman could make me laugh and laugh and laugh. We fought with each other like only two Virgos who love and respect each other very much can do. Mrowr! We had so many private jokes between us most people couldnt figure out what the hell we were laughing at half the time, but you could tell just by watching us together that we were just meant to be attached at the hip. She was six feet tall and all girl power. She was a tough cookie too. She played Volleyball in junior high and high school and one time I saw her bitch-slap a cheerleader so hard the girls bra popped. Kerie had a very distinct makeup print on her hand that made us laugh so hard we cried. The first time I met Kerie was on the Denton High School band field for early band practice -- I had just returned from a great trip to California where I had (without my parents permission) dyed my hair pink and blue and cut it all punk. This action on my part did NOT go over well with the administration at my high school. Just like the characters in The Breakfast Club which would later become my personal manifesto, I resisted the administrations right to tell me how to do my hair. This rebellion of mine caused Kerie -- who had just moved to Denton from Arizona -- to walk right up to me and say Hi, Im Kerie. You and I are gonna get along JUST fine. And that, as they say, was that. From literally that moment forward, we began a great friendship that lasted until -- well until 'then'. It lasts in my heart and mind to this day, but as we all know, that's just not quite the same. Kerie and I had our difficult times. We went through a lot in our lives. We watched each other succeed and fail -- and more times than I'd care to admit, we watched each other make complete assholes of ourselves in one way or another. There was a period of almost two excruciating years where she and I didn't speak to each other -- neither of us could remember why in the end, so we gave it up. We were both stubborn as could be, but that time she was the first to give up the ghost. Not having spoken for almost two years, I was awakened at two a.m. with a banging at my back door. It was raining hard outside and I was really nervous to even go to the door, but I did -- and I saw Kerie totally soaked, freaked-out and crying at the back door. Both of us eased into talking as if wed just seen each other earlier that day -- I think I started the conversation by saying Oh, sweetheart, what happened? Two hours, a pack of smokes, two hot teas and a can of chicken soup later I had heard the whole story, how she had gotten involved with a guy who seemed really cool at the time but who ended up spending all of her money and asking her to rent an apartment in her name so they could both live there. After about a year he was letting so many friends live there with them that she didn't even know who's stuff was who's anymore. There was never any question about it, she wasn't asking to move in with me, I wasn't even feeling like it needed to be said. You know what they say "Got drug addicts for roommates? Don't get mad, get GLAD!" We got in her car, stopped by a Walgreen's to pick up some trash bags and went into "The Dirtiest Apartment In North America." No kidding, The cat boxes were cesspools of festering hairballs, cat piss and cat shit. the power had been turned off some weeks ago, but nobody had bothered to clean out the fridge. There was an entire burgeoning colony of cockroaches making a happy home in what was whimsically referred to as "The Kitchen." There were about 20 people lying about the living room covered in cat hair in various states of undress and intoxication from one substance or another. We literally had to step over unconscious people who had needles still stuck in their arms in order to get to her 'room'. That's where I saw the very definition of Kerie. In the middle of all this shit -- these dirty clothes and heroin addicts and losers and freaks and cockroaches and dishes that hadn't been washed in weeks -- way off in a corner was a neatly made twin bed with a frilly Barbie-pink bedspread and a fisherman's net hanging over the bed with about 35 rather perturbed stuffed animals in it. It looked vaguely like a room that Buffy from Family Affair would live in. I noticed that despite the fact that these people were all probably screwing Kerie over in one way or another -- nobody, not ONE person had TOUCHED HER STUFF. The girl had a "Huh-uh, don't even THINK about it" that could be heard for miles. The Teddy Bear, who obviously had been through as much with Kerie as I had, looked particularly chagrined at this latest 'Pied a Terre.' His sad little eyes peered down at us through the net saying "Oh, my did YOU ever pick a winner THIS time, sister." He seemed quite relieved when he was silently and unceremoniously plopped into a black trash bag and transported across the sea of glam-rock wanna-be's lying on the living room floor. From the bag, I could swear I heard a tiny voice like Teddy Ruxpin saying "Thank CHRIST" as we opened the door to leave. Just then, Kerie got a look on her face like she might be changing her mind -- she looked back across the den of iniquity we had just crossed then glanced back at me. She whispered "hang on!" and quickly tiptoed back to where her room was and emerged seconds later rolling up a huge "Rick Springfield" concert poster, shaking her head and saying "Let's get the fuck out of here." And that was what we did. All 37 of us. Kerie, Rick Springfield and the stuffed animals moved in with me that very night on sixth street and we lived together for almost two years there. What had already been a great friendship now was infused with learning to truly respect one another, cook, budget, buy groceries, keep gas in the car and other things. We even had a "kid" in the form of a beautiful cinnamon-colored Chow-Chow named Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart Possley Norton, "Wolfie" for short. In almost every sense of the word, we were married. We never had sex or any kind of ceremony, and we never really talked about it, but we were just "Kerie and Bob" and that was just the way it was. Kerie eventually moved back home to live with her parents and save money while she went to school to learn a trade so she could stop working in the hotel industry. She threw herself into becoming a Certified Massage Therapist and many other jobs before it was all over. After we moved out of that house on sixth street, we had about 8 years of time left -- of course we didn't know that at the time -- but that's just the way it is. Kerie moved a few times, I moved more times than we could count. We talked nearly every day no matter where we were. I eventually put myself through trade school to become a Certified Networking Engineer -- something that spearheaded my whole career in Software. On February 11th, 1998, I was lying in bed, dead asleep when I heard my pager go off and my cell phone ring several times. My friends have always been late-night people, and they know I love a good joke, so I figured it was just somebody calling to say Oh, my GOD remember that time you ---- and that they were all somewhere laughing about some stupid thing I had done. About 20 minutes later, I was forcibly woken up by my ex-boyfriend John Bailey who shook me awake and said Rob, wake up. I was really groggy, but I noticed that there was another person in the room, my good friend Jodi (of the early morning bloody mary mentioned earlier in the blog). This wasnt going to be good, I could tell right away. I vaguely remember being slapped to wake up -- and the words Rob, wake up -- weve got something important to tell you... Theres been an accident... and Kerie didnt make it. At first I thought -- hoped I was dreaming. Then I thought they must be joking with me. It hit me all at once that neither one of those was true. I had spoken with her just the day before. I had a voicemail from her from the day before. I had tried to call her today. I threw up. At first I couldnt cry, then I couldnt stop crying. I cried for like six months. I went to grief counseling, I went to therapy -- I felt like my being gay kept us from being married and if wed been married she wouldnt have been where she was -- and shed be alive. Over time, I started to deal with it. I had to take it in little bites. I couldnt deal with it all at once. I never dream about Kerie. Shes never in my sleeping thoughts. She doesnt come and visit me in visions or signals or signs very much. I really dont believe in that sort of thing for the most part. Though I dont *not* believe in it either. Though when I met Adam, he and I were not sure if we should be friends or dating or what -- and when he and I finally sat down to talk about all of that for the first time in what was to be a very difficult conversation, I had a distinct full body visceral experience where I felt or heard or wished she was sitting behind Adam just looking at me and I could almost see her and I could smell her and feel her there... and she clearly said two words: Pay Attention. I did, and I have been with him ever since. Fast forward to this week... Im in San Francisco on my way to Dallas for a meeting with one of my customers. I had a tough flight and had totally forgotten that Tuesday was The Anniversary... I had meetings in Dallas planned all day on Tuesday, then my Dad (who still lives in Dallas) and some friends and I were going to have dinner in Dallas together. The next day in Dallas, unexpectedly my meeting got out early. Way early. I called my Mom, who I hadnt really been able to make plans to see during this trip and told her I had some spare time and I could come to Denton to have coffee or whatever. Still not remembering that today was the day. I drove the somewhat drizzly long road to Denton, and I decided to take a bit of a different way to get to my Moms office -- normally Id take the highways as far as I could, but I thought Id take a brief detour to see my hometown and take another look. I was listening to a High-Energy dance music station, definitely not the kind of radio station that plays Oldies by any stretch of the imagination. My detour took me right by my old High School. Right across the street from where I met her for the first time. I was driving along barely listening when I heard the announcer say Now weve got a special request, a blast from the past if you will and her song started. Right then and there.
If you need a friend, dont look to a stranger, You know in the end, Ill always be there. But when youre in doubt, and when youre in danger, Take a look all around, and Ill be there.I thought to myself Oh, this was Keries favorite song!! Then a more serious and jarring series of thoughts hit me. Wait. Im in Denton. God, Im right across the street from where we met. Holy crap. What day is it? It hit me all at once, the trip, the meeting ending early, the sudden whim to call my Mom, the decision to take a bit of a different route -- all those things and *years* of decisions before that got me to this place at this time.
Im sorry, but Im just thinking of the right words to say. I know they dont sound the way I planned them to be. But if youll wait around awhile, Ill make you fall for me, I promise you, I promise you I will.I was within an hour of the time she died, six years later, sitting in front of the place where we met, 2000 miles from home completely by chance when a dance radio station I *happened* to be listening to gets a request to play THAT song. I suddenly realized I was going to throw up. I jumped out of the car and found the nearest patch of grass and lost my conference room lunch right there.
When your day is through, and so is your temper, You know what to do, Im gonna always be there. Sometimes if I shout, its not whats intended. These words just come out, with no gripe to bear. I gotta tell you, I gotta tell you, I need to tell you...I called Adam, he talked me down from the tree I was emotionally sitting in, we decided that it was either a coincidence or it wasnt. Moments later, I got the chance to spend some time with my Moms boss who has known me since I was 10. His son committed suicide a couple of years ago, and I hadnt gotten a chance to tell him how sorry I was to hear that, and to offer my condolences. I finally got the chance to just spend some time with him and let him know that he wasnt alone -- and I got a chance to just listen to some stuff he might not have been able to share with anybody else. Moments like that can be very frightening. What am I supposed to do with that? Are you trying to tell me something? Should I not get on that plane? Should I keep doing what Im doing? Where are you? Did I miss something important? Did I do something good? Does God (or whoever she or he is) like me? Are you cheering me on, or am I fucking up? Do you know that I love you and miss you and miss you and miss you so much it breaks my heart? I thought Id gotten over this -- why are you making me cry? Wait, dont stop making me cry. I guess its time for me to start believing in something bigger than myself again. Over the next couple of days, it became more and more apparent that I was *supposed* to be there at that time, as freaky as it was. I returned to San Francisco later that week and -- out of the blue -- for the first time in history, I could marry the man I love -- and we did, as you'll read in our blog on Friday the 13th. Many things happen all around me all the time, and I guess I can choose to question it up and down or just accept it and I can choose to just think of it as Kerie saying hello. Hey, Bear. How you doin? Daddy bought me a new Porche because I got mine DIRTY. Shirt-T-Shirt. Can I get some trash bags and move you in with me again? Ill make room for your stuff. Im sorry, but Im just thinking of the right words to say. I know they dont sound the way I planned them to be. But if I have to walk the world, Ill make you fall for me, I promise you, I promise you... I will. I will. I will. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Snow bodies bizness but my own! DATE: 2/06/2004 12:59:00 AM ----- BODY: Hey, everyone! I've been told by my good friend and co-worker Suzanne Sugimoto to go to bed immediately, but I really felt I *must* update everyone on our lives a bit. I'm in Chicago right now watching it snow. I always thought "Blizzard" was just a shake-and-M&M concoction they made at Dairy Queen -- BOY was I wrong! Its snowing like crazy here and everything is covered in a beautiful white blanket of whipped cream! Around the World in 80 Friggin Days Rob's travel has become something of a topic as of late -- in January I took a new position with Genesys, the same company I've worked for for about 4 years now -- and I'm VERY excited about it. My new responsibilities include a new fantastic boss named Judie, (I'm sure you'll hear more about her as time goes by) and new *global* responsibilites for a portion of Genesys software. Its a really fun job with lots and lots of work, but I've never in my life felt a part of a more dynamic, collaborative amazing team as I do now. That's no slam on my past team, as I miss them all very much, and they are some of the smartest people I've ever worked with -- and this new position is something of a kick because its like being at a startup inside a big company. We're dealing with a new product at Genesys, so it all feels new and exciting. We've had lots of late nights in somebody's hotel room raiding the mini bar, everyone's laptop out wirelessly connected to each-other furiously collaborating on projects -- its a blast, and I feel more alive than I have in terms of my career in a long long time. A huge part of how alive I feel in my job is how much I'm being respected and treated like somebody who has a lot to offer. I've really come to realize that when I'm treated like I'm an amazing person with lots to offer -- I suddenly find all these amazing resources and within myself to pull off things I never thought I could. I'm coming to believe that its human nature to rise to the occasion, and its giving me a great new outlook on life. Our recent Sales Kickoff at Genesys was a great energizer as well. Its so wonderful to see this company that we all care about and have worked so hard to help it become successful -- well, its just really becoming something fantastic. Our new CEO did some different things at this kickoff -- namely having a keynote speaker who was very inspirational, asking us all to write down personal goals for the year and having us all sign a glass plaque that indicated our "buy in" to those goals -- that really felt different and like we were all in this together, which was great. Let's see -- Travel? So, in the month of January, I flew to Chicago in the first week, Phoenix in the second, LA in the third and Chicago again in the fourth. February and March are going to see me in Dallas, Atlanta, Barcelona, London, Munich, Hamburg, Amsterdam, Paris and possibly Milan, April is (so far) Orlando and New York and June looks like Sydney, New York and some other locations. I'm glad, because I *like* New York in June. How about you? I'll probably make Premier Executive this year with *no* problem. Did I mention I'm *loving* this? Adam's going to join me in Dallas and the "Rob Norton, International Man of Mystery European Tour '04" so far, we'll have to see what else we can afford in terms of his travel. Speaking of Adam, he's doing GREAT at his new job working with Sheila (his Mom) at getting her new business together, and though we haven't seen much of each other lately, we're still doing very very well -- our home is a safe place away from lots of craziness, and Adam really helps keep it that way for both of us when I return from my travels. He's met most of my new team and gets along VERY well with my new boss. I'm keeping a list of things I'm doing with my new boss that I could never do with my old boss, some of the things on that list are: 1. We went and got our hair done together at the salon where Adam and I get our hair cut by Xavier, who also happens to be a budding porn star on the side (Only in San Francisco) 2. I helped Judie fix her hair for a meeting she was going to where she needed to look fab 3. Adam and I had Judie to our house for wine and cheese and talked for hours I'm sure the list will grow as time goes on, I'll just add them in. ;) Ok, so that's it, I've got to hit the sack. I'm teaching a class all day tomorrow and I've got to be somewhat fresh for it, though that's going to be hard to do on 3 or 4 hours of sleep. Love you all, hope you're doing fantastically! Love, Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: For our FIRST trick... DATE: 1/30/2004 07:29:00 AM ----- BODY: Hi everybody! It's been a long time since ya've written anything in our little slice of the web, but here we are again. Lots and lots has changed since the last time we wrote, mostly for the better. I'm writing this on my phone, so details will have to wait until later. Right now, adam and i are on bart going to the airport in order to fly to southern cal and spend the weekend at what my good friend Mike Pazak likes to call "Six Flags Over Walt's Frozen Dead Ass," better known as "Disneyland". It's "The Jeffew's" birthday TODAY!! And we're taking him there as a gift to him (and to us, because spending time with Jeff is always a treat!) and we're really looking forward to it. More later, bye for now, love, adam and rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Good Morning Everyone!! DATE: 12/12/2003 09:47:00 AM ----- BODY: Hey, Everybody. Its been a long long time (over a month!) since we've posted, and the last two were pretty weak as it was. I'm going to attempt to do a much larger posting soon, but until then I just wanted to say hi, that this blog was still alive, and say that this morning, my good friend Jodi came over just to say hi. She'd had a girl's night out with her friends and they ended up staying up all night, so she thought she'd pop by and say hey... fortunately, I was awake! :) We've also got some wonderful guests staying with us, so Jodi hung out and chatted for a while. Since Jodi had been up all night, what better way to start the new day than with a fabulous Rob Norton Bloody Mary?!?!? Here's some pix! ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Ohhh... Yew trayvel all over da world, hokay? DATE: 11/06/2003 09:39:00 PM ----- BODY: Wow, nearly a MONTH since we posted... lots going on! Rob's work is lots and lots better, things have pretty much worked out for the best there. Since the last time we posted, Rob has traveled to: 1) New Orleans for a week (his liver is still recovering) 2) Los Angeles for a week 3) Sat on the couch for a week (PlayStation Vacation(tm)) 4) Back to Los Angeles (Calabasas, actually -- YES during the fires) 5) Back to San Francisco 6) Back to Los Angeles (Santa Monica, actually, fires were over) In the next few days Rob will be traveling to Los Angeles and Las Vegas a couple of times, so if you want him to gamble for you or anything, let us know! Adam has lots of updates as well: Things were really set up at Starbucks for Adam to *Not* be very successful, so Adam and Rob talked about it, decided Jane was just a "See You Next Tuesday" and had it in for him, and it was high time Adam just moved on. Adam is now happily working with Rob at home being a wonderful companion and helping out with all of the things that fall through the cracks when Rob travels as much as he's doing right now. Fairly soon Adam will probably be working with Sheila directly on trying to get her business started up here (Adam is still a licensed insurance broker in California, so that will help out quite a bit.) Adam is also working on getting the business that he and Rob have been designing up and running, so he's got quite a bit on his plate. Halloween was fun, we had a "safe house" where folks could come to fix their makeup or whatever, a few good friends showed up and we sat around having cocktails and feeling safe from all the mayhem down the street. Fall has settled in nicely around here, its cloudy and a bit blustery most of the time, but its nice and cool and we've been able to have a fire in the fireplace from time to time, so that's always comforting... Hope you're all doing well, we'll catch up more soon! love, Adam and Rob ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: And I think its gonna be a long long time... DATE: 10/17/2003 01:19:00 AM ----- BODY: Sorry its been so long since We've written, things have been hectic! We're in LA again right now for business and for pleasure, Rob's on vacation next week, Adam's helping his Mom move. Lots of stuff has happened since the last time we wrote, but we'll have to catch up some other time. We went to see Mystic River tonight, and it was OK (Scott loved it, Diana thought it was alright -- it didn't "wow" her, and Adam thought it was interesting in that he thought it represented a contemporary urban western, but that was about it) and Rob thought the acting was great, the cinematography was beautiful and the story fell really flat. In fact, the story fell as flat for Rob as "The 25th Hour" did... lots of build up, and then a quiet, "manly" staid ending. Weird. That's about all there was to that. We'll talk more soon. Love, Rob and Adam ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: I love the fog... DATE: 10/01/2003 07:33:00 PM ----- BODY: I love the fog, the dark chilly quick clouds that push over our city -- an unwelcome door open to the winter wind. I love the fog because it changes my city. Hillsides to fogslides, houserows to windtunnels, windowpanes to rattling harbingers of summer's death. It cleans out the hot and the tanning and the pretty and the surface and the sun and vacation and oh-its-been-so-long ... And replaces it with cozy and party and savory smell and holiday and sweaters and wine and laughter and fireplace and presents and family and oh-its-so-good. For a while anyway. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Anonymous TITLE: Utopia Brewing DATE: 9/29/2003 10:59:00 PM ----- BODY: Just thought I would chime in that Rob and I use a very unique coffee maker made by Bodum. It is an automatic electric vacuum pot which Starbucks dubbed a "Barista Utopia". We love it, though it is fraught with returns and problems - they've discontinued them, but fans of the Utopia are very loyal. Check it out for fun - or come by our pad and ask me to brew a pot for you! I've been famous for my coffee for years, long before Starbucks ventured out of Seattle. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: This is my Utopia DATE: 9/27/2003 10:46:00 AM ----- BODY: And I thought this was gonna be an "A" Picture! -Bob Hope to Dorothy Lamour, upon Bing Crosby's entrance into the scene.Road to Utopia, 1946 I was listening to my iPod last night, which incidentally after all these months still makes me do "the gay pause™" and say "!...fabulous" and there's this song from Alanis Morisette called "Utopia" -- its really beautiful. I love the way she turns a phrase. Funny -- I wouldn't consider myself like this Huge Fan of Alanis, but then every song I hear of hers -- if I sit and listen to it -- well, they're just really great, very moving, very well written... and then I decided to put the lyrics to it on the Blog here, because its a very poetic song. I searched on the internet, and lo and behold, I found the lyrics -- on one of the most popular Arabic Radio Station's websites. You hear that, Bushy? These here words below were reprinted on them thar Arab's websites! Gasp! They must be human.
UTOPIA Album: Under Rug Swept Artist: Alanis Morisette we'd gather around all in a room fasten our belts engage in dialogue we'd all slow down rest without guilt not lie without fear disagree sans judgement we would stay and respond and expand and include and allow and forgive and enjoy and evolve and discern and inquire and accept and admit and divulge and open and reach out and speak up This is utopia this is my utopia This is my ideal my end in sight Utopia this is my utopia This is my nirvana My ultimate we'd open our arms we'd all jump in we'd all coast down into safety nets we would share and listen and support and welcome be propelled by passion not invest in outcomes we would breathe and be charmed and amused by difference be gentle and make room for every emotion we'd provide forums we'd all speak out we'd all be heard we'd all feel seen we'd rise post-obstacle more defined more grateful we would heal be humbled and be unstoppable we'd hold close and let go and know when to do which we'd release and disarm and stand up and feel safe this is utopia this is my utopia this is my ideal my end in sight utopia this is my utopia this is my nirvana my ultimateNow, isn't that a beautiful song? Wow. If you want to hear what it sounds like, click on Alanis Morisette's name above, click on the "Music" link at the top of the page, choose the album "Under Rug Swept" and then the last track is "Utopia". I'd suggest clicking on the little link at the bottom of the page that says "track: xxxxxxxxx" and turning the music off, otherwise you'll be hearing two songs at once. ----- -------- AUTHOR: Robert TITLE: Foreign Cinema is only foreign if you go there for good food DATE: 9/26/2003 06:23:00 PM ----- BODY: Yeah, so... Foreign Cinema was a huge disappointment. Uh, let me correct that. It was a huge TWO HUNDRED DOLLAR disappointment. Our waiter was rude and gave me attitude from almost the moment we sat down. When I ordered a cheese dish from the "Fun to Share" section of the menu, then I ordered a salad, he asked in a snotty tone "Oh, so the fromage is for the table?" No, asshole, I'm just fat. I'm a huge fat motherfucker, therefore the fromage is just for me. Big fat me, you little short bald fat fuck. Just for the record, I saw no "fun" in the cheese. I really didn't feel like saying "Wheeeee! This is FUN!" while sharing the cheese... although there was nothing wrong with the cheese. Maybe the kitchen forgot to insert the essence of fun or something. When Adam asked about a particular dish, the waiter... and I'm not kidding here... the waiter said "I have no idea what you're talk.... I mean, show me where you're looking on the menu" to Adam. Neither of us are idiots. We've both been waiters. We were going to tip him decently (and did, as a matter of fact) and he was just being a little prick for the fun of it. I asked for a nice wine, he suggested this swill that they called a "Our Shiraz" that was acidic as all hell and tasted like crap. I drank it anyway and ordered a grudge glass of the merlot at 12 bucks per glass. I had the "Curry Scented Chicken" and adam had the carpaccio. Adam ended up sending his meal back to the kitchen and I finished mine. Actually, that's the only thing the waiter did right, when Adam asked to have something else other than the Carpaccio, he was gracious and just replaced the dish without fuss, which was nice, so he deserved the tip, but the rest of his service was mediocre at best. Oh, and if you're going there for the movie, don't. The movie is simply shown on the wall as a sort of "moving art" and no sound is provided for the experience. You can only see the movie through a plastic tarp, there are only a few seats where you can even see the movie, and its really just a moving piece of artwork on the wall. Adam and I thought we could do this restaraunt a whole lot better. We thought -- if you put a little thought into the menu, had some simple dishes named or designed based on movies, and served simple things like "Marilyn Merlot" and that kind of thing, you'd do very well with the menu... as it was, the menu was pretentious and full of crap that not a lot of people want to eat, which explains why the restaraunt was less than half full. We won't go here again, which is a shame since we spend quite a bit of money month to month on restaraunts. We also can't recommend it to friends. The menu was just too pretentious and the waiter was just too full of himself. And the wine was crap. Sorry, we'd love to be able to reccommend. Especially since its one of the city's "Top 10" according to Open Table. ----- --------